Don’t Believe Your Thoughts
Do your thoughts drive you crazy? Did you know that it is estimated that we have between 50,000-60,000 thoughts per day. That is about one per second. 95% of those thoughts are the same ones we had yesterday. And the worst part is that 80% of the habitual thoughts we have are negative. The good news is that you do not…
Perfect Hack When Jealousy Hits!
What can you do when the green-eyed monster hits you? With all of the social media we consume it is easy to look around and think that everyone else has a fabulous life. Although I must admit I have a few friends who post all of the terrible things going on in their life. I have learned to stay far away from…
How To Be Happy: Your Happiness Set Point
Do you know your happiness set point? The GOOD news is that over the last 30 years there have been thousands of scientific studies on happiness proving that it is possible for anyone to be happy! Dr. Martin Seligman is considered the father of positive psychology. He was one of the first scientists to study happy and healthy people to find…
Three Life Changing Questions For Busy People
Before you are overwhelmed, use these questions! Do you get overwhelmed at work and at home? These days, who doesn’t? We are all going a hundred miles an hour and pulled in conflicting directions. I have some life changing questions for you to ask yourself. Does this NEED to be done? Does this need to be done by ME? Does this…
Pay It Forward For Happiness
The gift of happiness! Did you know that scientists have proven that by performing small simple kind acts of kindness we can increase our own happiness dramatically? It’s true. I have gotten trapped in the view that in order to make an impact, I need to do something big. But it has been proven that even small simple acts matter. Just buying…
Overwhelm is NOT and Emotion
OVERWHELM is a mindset, not an emotion. And I have a simple exercise to cure it! How many times have we all said, “I feel overwhelmed”? Guess what? Overwhelm is not an emotion. It is a MINDSET. Ask yourself what is the underlying emotion? Usually it is fear or sadness or both. The mindset of overwhelm is usually lots of thoughts rolling…
Does Belief in Others Create Productivity?
Can our belief in someone affect their work? Does our expectation of and belief in someone affect performance? Is it possible to create a more positive outcome with kids in a classroom or employees or even our own children by believing that they can do it? The answer is yes. This is called the Pygmalion Effect. When our expectation, voiced or not…
Is There a Payoff For Being a Victim?
Is there a payoff for being a victim? Being a victim has lots of payoffs. We get attention. People notice us and feel sorry for us. We can justify giving up. We don’t have to take control of our life. We can blame someone or something else for our troubles. But what do we lose? We lose control over our own destiny….
Do You Feel Bad About Feeling Sad?
Emotions are not actually Good or Bad No emotion is inherently bad or good, they just are. And when we look a little deeper, we learn data that can be extremely helpful. What do I mean? Well, we have emotions all the time. I teach people to increase their happiness set point, which is completely doable. In fact, I help people become…
Are There Benefits Of Feeling Stress?
Can Stress Actually Be Good? We tend to think of emotions and feelings as good or bad. But are they? Is stress inherently bad? Actually, it is a fact of life unless you are a monk meditating all day long. And I bet even they feel some stress. Our emotions are really just markers giving us data. When we feel stress, the…